After the Last Breath Modules

After someone’s last breath often people ask “What’s the right thing to do now?” … and what is the right thing to do? These modules are designed to help you to discern what is right for you and those around you during the time between someone’s last breath and their burial or cremation – what we call the Daisy Days. Our aim is that you will gain the knowledge, confidence and curiosity to support you to follow your instincts at this time. Attention is given to preparing for someone’s Daisy Days, practical body care, soul care, our responses and opportunities for meaningful connection. 

These modules are suitable for everyone, whether or not they have any or no spiritual or religious belief. No prior knowledge or experience related to death is required. The modules are accessed directly through the website, no extra logins or passwords are needed.

We also offer a full course several times per year based on the same material and with live online Q&A/discussion sessions. Further information about the course is given here.

We want everyone who needs this information to have access to it. Please contact us for access to the modules if you are unable to buy them through the website for whatever reason.

Note: The modules are a pre-requisite for joining our voluntary network in Scotland, the Daisy Chain. If you become an active member we will offer to refund any payment you made for the modules.

Introducing
the Daisy Days

In this module we consider the value and legalities of the days between someone’s last breath and their burial or cremation – their Daisy Days. This is a valuable time for reconfiguring relationships, releasing gently, and setting the course of the grieving process. 

Body and Soul
During The Daisy Days

In this module we consider our relationship with someone’s body and soul after they have taken their last breath and until their burial or cremation – or, as we say, during their Daisy Days. We include the practical considerations for body care and a copy of the Daisy Body Care Manual.

Looking After Ourselves
During The Daisy Days

In this module we consider how we can look after our longer term wellbeing during the time between a person’s last breath and their burial or cremation, during the Daisy Days. It is such a potentially valuable time for setting the course of our grieving process.

Preparing
For Your Daisy Days

In this module we consider how you can prepare for the days after your last breath, your Daisy Days, in a way that is meaningful for yourself and also those who are going to be affected by your death. Firstly through conversations then by recording your wishes in a letter.

This module introduces the value of the Daisy Days, the days between someone’s last breath and their burial or cremation. It explores the legalities when someone dies, taking charge of their body and arrangements and bringing them home. It also considers death as a process, our emotional response, relationships and dynamics, caring for carers and speaking up for quiet voices during the Daisy Days.

You will receive a link to:

  • watch the Module video (approx 1 hour)
  • download the video transcript
  • download an illuminating exercise
  • access other useful resources.

The “Buy Module” button below takes you to PayPal, where you can pay via your PayPal account or use a credit/debit card as a guest. Once you have paid, click on the “Return to Seller” button at the bottom of the page and you will be taken directly to the Module webpage.

To be able to access the materials in the future, you need to store the Module webpage address. Your PayPal receipt gives this address in the Description field. Once on the Module webpage you can give your email address to receive the webpage address by email too.

For further information contact admin@pushingupthedaisies.org.uk

This module introduces body care step-by-step after someone’s last breath. This includes an understanding of noticeable changes in the body and of times for caution when tending a body at home. Possibilities for tending the soul and your choices relating to coffins and shrouds are also  explored.

You will receive a link to:

  • watch the module video (approx 1 hour)
  • download the video transcript
  • download the Daisy Body Care Manual (pdf)
  • download illuminating exercises
  • access other useful resources.

The “Buy Module” button below takes you to PayPal, where you can pay via your PayPal account or use a credit/debit card as a guest. Once you have paid, click on the “Return to Seller” button at the bottom of the page and you will be taken directly to the Module webpage.

To be able to access the materials in the future, you need to store the Module webpage address. Your PayPal receipt gives this address in the Description field. Once on the Module webpage you can give your email address to receive the webpage address by email too.

For further information contact admin@pushingupthedaisies.org.

The Looking After Ourselves During the Daisy Days module covers how much activity is right for you, how to decide whether you need a funeral director, why take charge of someone’s body at home, creating conscious get-togethers, benefits of rituals for the living and the dead, connecting when you can’t be there, addressing regrets, looking after yourself as the Daisy Days unfold and crossing the threshold

You will receive a link to:

  • watch the module video (approx 1 hour)
  • download the video transcript
  • access links to other useful resources.

The “Buy Module” button below takes you to PayPal, where you can pay via your PayPal account or use a credit/debit card as a guest. Once you have paid, click on the “Return to Seller” button at the bottom of the page and you will be taken directly to the Module webpage.

To be able to access the materials in the future, you need to store the Module webpage address. Your PayPal receipt gives this address in the Description field. Once on the Module webpage you can give your email address to receive the webpage address by email too.

For further information contact admin@pushingupthedaisies.org.uk

This module explores an approach to preparing for your Daisy Days which takes account of yourself and also those central to your life. It covers who can legally make arrangements for you, how to begin, the influences on decisions, explorative conversations, and gives step-by-step guidance to write your “After My Last Breath” letter.

You will receive a link to:

  • watch the module video (approx 30 mins)
  • download the video transcript
  • download an illuminating exercise
  • access other useful resources.

The “Buy Module” button below takes you to PayPal, where you can pay via your PayPal account or use a credit/debit card as a guest. Once you have paid, click on the “Return to Seller” button at the bottom of the page and you will be taken directly to the Module webpage.

To be able to access the materials in the future, you need to store the Module webpage address. Your PayPal receipt gives this address in the Description field. Once on the Module webpage you can give your email address to receive the webpage address by email too.

For further information contact admin@pushingupthedaisies.org.ukan

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Slow Down When Someone Dies

by Lin Carruthers and Kate Clark

Do the lights go out when someone dies? Are you in the dark about what to do when a person takes their last breath? This life-affirming guide encourages and enables you to explore the options for everyone involved.

It is currently available in paperback and eBook format. It is also available as a pdf by donation from admin@pushingupthedaisies.org.uk.

We are working on making it available in local bookshops in June 2023.

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