After the Last Breath Modules

Many people wonder, after someone takes their last breath, “What should I do now?” 

These modules are here to help you during the time after someone’s last breath and before their burial or cremation. We call this time the Daisy Days. The modules explore how to prepare for the Daisy Days, how to care for the body, how to look after emotions and inner life, people may respond, and how to stay connected with others. Our aim is to help you build understanding, confidence, and curiosity, so you can trust what feels right for you. The modules are easy to access on our website with no extra logins or passwords.

The modules are for everyone, They are not linked to any religion or belief system and you don’t need any experience or knowledge about death. You can move through the materials in your own time. We also offer an interactive  course several times a year. This covers the same material and includes live online group  question-and-answer and discussion sessions. You can find more information about the course here.

We want this information to be available to anyone who needs it. If you are unable to pay for the modules on the website for any reason, please contact us and we will support you.

Note: The modules are required if you wish to join our volunteer network in Scotland, the Daisy Chain. If you become an active member, the cost of the modules will be refunded.

Introducing
the Daisy Days

In this module, we explain why the days after someone dies are important, and what the law says about the days between someone’s last breath and their burial or cremation. We call this time their Daisy Days. These days give people a chance to think about their relationships, say goodbye in a gentle way, and start to grieve with care and calm.

Body and Soul
During The Daisy Days

In this module, we look at  how we stay connected to a person’s body and soul after they have taken their last breath and before their burial or cremation. We call this time their Daisy Days. We also explain simple, practical ways to care for their body. To help you this module includes a copy of the Daisy Body Care Manual.

Looking After Ourselves
During The Daisy Days

In this module, we look at  how to care for our longer-term well-being in the days after someone’s last breath and before their burial or cremation. We call this time their Daisy Days. These days can be very important. They can help guide our grieving and support us as we begin to adjust to life without the person.

Preparing
For Your Daisy Days

In this module, we look at how you can prepare for the days after your own last breath — your Daisy Days — in a way that feels right for you and kind to the people who will be affected by your death. We do this by encouraging honest conversations, and by helping you write a letter that clearly shares your wishes and what matters to you.

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This module introduces the importance of the Daisy Days — the time between someone’s last breath and their burial or cremation. The module looks at death as a process. It explores our emotional responses, changing relationships and family dynamics, caring for carers, and how to speak up for quieter voices during the Daisy Days. It explains what the law says when someone dies, how to take responsibility for their body and arrangements, and how to bring them home if that feels right.

When you sign up, you will receive a link that allows you to:

  • watch the module video (approx 1 hour)
  • download the video transcript
  • download the Daisy Body Care Manual (pdf)
  • download illuminating exercises
  • access other useful resources.

The “Buy Module” button will take you to PayPal. You can pay using your PayPal account, or by credit or debit card as a guest. After paying, click the “Return to Seller” button at the bottom of the page. This will take you straight to the module webpage.

To be able to access the materials again in the future, you will need to save the module webpage address. This address is also shown in the Description section of your PayPal receipt. Once you are on the module webpage, you can enter your email address and the webpage link will be sent to you by email.

For further information contact admin@pushingupthedaisies.org.uk

This module gently guides you through body care, step by step, after someone has taken their last breath. It explains the natural changes you may notice in the body and highlights times when extra care is needed if you are tending to a body at home.

The module also explores ways of caring for the soul, and looks at the choices available around coffins and shrouds, helping you decide what feels right

When you sign up, you will receive a link that allows you to:

  • watch the module video (approx 1 hour)
  • download the video transcript
  • download the Daisy Body Care Manual (pdf)
  • download illuminating exercises
  • access other useful resources.

The “Buy Module” button will take you to PayPal. You can pay using your PayPal account, or by credit or debit card as a guest. After paying, click the “Return to Seller” button at the bottom of the page. This will take you straight to the module webpage.

To be able to access the materials again in the future, you will need to save the module webpage address. This address is also shown in the Description section of your PayPal receipt. Once you are on the module webpage, you can enter your email address and the webpage link will be sent to you by email.

For further information contact admin@pushingupthedaisies.org.

The Looking After Ourselves During the Daisy Days module explores how to care for yourself during this special time. It looks at how much activity feels right for you, how to decide whether to use a funeral director, and why some people choose to care for someone’s body at home.

The module also covers creating thoughtful get‑togethers, the value of rituals for both the living and the dead, staying connected when you can’t be there in person, gently working with regrets, and taking care of yourself as the Daisy Days unfold, including the moment of crossing the threshold.

When you sign up, you will receive a link that allows you to:

  • watch the module video (about 1 hour)
  • download the video transcript
  • download a helpful exercise
  • access other useful resources

The “Buy Module” button will take you to PayPal. You can pay using your PayPal account, or by credit or debit card as a guest. After paying, click the “Return to Seller” button at the bottom of the page. This will take you straight to the module webpage.

To be able to access the materials again in the future, you will need to save the module webpage address. This address is also shown in the Description section of your PayPal receipt. Once you are on the module webpage, you can enter your email address and the webpage link will be sent to you by email.

For further information contact admin@pushingupthedaisies.org.uk

This module helps you prepare for your Daisy Days in a way that cares for you and the people who matter most in your life. It explains who can legally make arrangements for you, how to get started, and what can influence the choices you make. It also supports gentle, thoughtful conversations and gives step‑by‑step guidance to help you write your “After My Last Breath” letter.

When you sign up, you will receive a link that allows you to:

  • watch the module video (about 30 minutes)
  • download the video transcript
  • download a helpful exercise
  • access other useful resources

The “Buy Module” button will take you to PayPal. You can pay using your PayPal account, or by credit or debit card as a guest. After paying, click the “Return to Seller” button at the bottom of the page. This will take you straight to the module webpage.

To be able to access the materials again in the future, you will need to save the module webpage address. This address is also shown in the Description section of your PayPal receipt. Once you are on the module webpage, you can enter your email address and the webpage link will be sent to you by email.

For further information contact admin@pushingupthedaisies.org.uk

Slow Down When Someone Dies

by Lin Carruthers and Kate Clark

Do the lights go out when someone dies? Are you in the dark about what to do when a person takes their last breath? This life-affirming guide encourages and enables you to explore the options for everyone involved.

It is currently available in paperback and eBook format. It is also available as a pdf by donation from admin@pushingupthedaisies.org.uk.

We are working on making it available in local bookshops in June 2023.

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