"bringing death home"

In the days between death and burial or cremation, people have the opportunity to care at home for someone who has died. This tender act can aid in grieving, bring a sense of fulfilment and help families, including children, to meet death as something understandable and natural.

When someone dies, some people feel the need to stay close to them for a few more days in the familiarity of home. This is often the main carer or closest person who can be in deep shock no matter how expected the death. They can be the “quiet” voice when others around are getting busy contacting funeral directors. It is important that we make sure these quiet voices get what they need as otherwise they can have long lasting regrets affecting their wellbeing.

Looking after someone who has died can be a last loving act can also aid everyone in grieving, bring a sense of fulfilment and help folk, including children, to really take into their bones that a loved one has died. This all helps us to meet death as something understandable and natural.

This can be part of a home-based funeral where people make some or all of the arrangements themselves. It is equally possible for it to be part of a funeral organised by a funeral director.

Get savvy about your options now so that you are ready to care for yourself and your loved ones – in body and soul – after their death.

Our aim is to provide enough information and support to those who would instinctively want to keep the bodies of their loved ones at home (or bring them back home) during the days between a death and a funeral.
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“Fantastic to have this space and opportunity to learn and talk about the hard stuff and the taboo.”
We understand there are taboos and uncertainty surrounding death, but the information we can provide is practical and reassuring.
  • Laws about Dead Bodies in Scotland.
  • Caring at home for someone who has died.
  • Immediately after someone dies at home.
  • Someone Dies in a Hospital, Hospice or Care Home.
  • When a Baby Dies.
  • Arranging Funerals in Scotland.
  • Paying for Funerals.
  • Web Links.

The Quiet Voices we are speaking up for

“When my dad died I really wanted to keep him at home but the funeral director told me it wasn’t a good idea so I didn’t. Me being a nurse as well, I should have known better. I didn’t feel I could argue with him. I am so sorry I didn’t get the chance.”
“I looked after my husband all the time at home when he was dying. My sons arrived just as he died and called the funeral director. He was wrenched away from me within an hour. I should never have let him go. I am still regretting it 3 years later but have never talked to anyone about it.”

“If only I had known… I promised to care for my mum at home but she had to go into hospital in her last week. I would have jumped at the chance to take her home again after she died and care for her one last time.”

Upcoming events

AUTUMN GATHERING

Aberdeen
28th September 2019

AUTUMN GATHERING

East Linton
5 October 2019 @10am