bringing death home
When someone dies it is shocking, even if it was expected. We often don’t know what to do for the best. The best thing is usually to PAUSE. There is no rush. Give yourself time to work out what’s best for the wellbeing of you and those around you.
In the days following death it is always worth considering to keep at home the person who has died. This can aid grieving, bring a sense of fulfilment and help families, including children, to meet death as something understandable and natural.
When someone dies, some people feel a strong need to stay close to them for a few days in the familiarity of home. This is often the main carer or closest person who can be in deep shock no matter how expected the death. They can be the “quiet” voice when others around are getting busy contacting funeral directors. It is important that we make sure these quiet voices get what they need as otherwise they can have long lasting regrets affecting their wellbeing.
Looking after someone who has died can be a last loving act, can aid in grieving, bring a sense of fulfilment and help folk, including children, to really take into their bones that a loved one has died. This all helps us to meet death as something understandable and natural.
This can be part of a home-based funeral where people make some or all of the arrangements themselves. It is equally possible for it to be part of a funeral organised by a funeral director.
Get savvy about your options now so that you are ready to care for yourself and your loved ones – in body and soul – after their death.
Our aim is to provide information and support to those wishing to consider their options after death and especially to whose who instinctively want to keep their loved ones at home (or bring them back home) in the days after their death.
Speaking Up for The Quiet Voices
“If only I had known… I promised to care for my mum at home but she had to go into hospital in her last week. I would have jumped at the chance to take her home again after she died and care for her one last time.”
Round the kitchen table
8 March 2020 12pm
Spring 2020 tbc