"bringing death home"
In the days between death and burial or cremation, people have the opportunity to care at home for someone who has died. This tender act can aid in grieving, bring a sense of fulfilment and help families, including children, to meet death as something understandable and natural.
When someone dies, some people feel the need to stay close to them for a few more days in the familiarity of home. This is often the main carer or closest person who can be in deep shock no matter how expected the death. They can be the “quiet” voice when others around are getting busy contacting funeral directors. It is important that we make sure these quiet voices get what they need as otherwise they can have long lasting regrets affecting their wellbeing.
Looking after someone who has died can be a last loving act can also aid everyone in grieving, bring a sense of fulfilment and help folk, including children, to really take into their bones that a loved one has died. This all helps us to meet death as something understandable and natural.
This can be part of a home-based funeral where people make some or all of the arrangements themselves. It is equally possible for it to be part of a funeral organised by a funeral director.
Get savvy about your options now so that you are ready to care for yourself and your loved ones – in body and soul – after their death.
The Quiet Voices we are speaking up for
“If only I had known… I promised to care for my mum at home but she had to go into hospital in her last week. I would have jumped at the chance to take her home again after she died and care for her one last time.”
28th September 2019