bringing death home
********* Covid-19 Update *********
At Pushing Up The Daisies we reach out and extend our thoughts to all who are facing the death of a loved one in this current challenging environment. We are ever mindful that people continue to die in our communities from other causes as well as from Covid-19, and that the dying process may be especially difficult for families due to physical distancing measures.
Spending time with someone after they die to say goodbye may be more important than ever to help console those grieving the death of their loved one. We are not aware of any guidance preventing people from keeping someone at home who has died so long as the current guidance, eg physical distancing and face covering, is followed. If you would like to do this then please contact us. We can support you to make a plan.
Covid-19 may generate discussions about what treatment a person would accept and where they would draw the line if they became very sick, discussions which are relevant to many other conditions. This helpful guidance is forthright and honest.
When someone dies it is shocking, even if it was expected. We often don’t know what to do for the best. The best thing is usually to PAUSE. There is no rush. Give yourself time to work out what’s best for the wellbeing of you and those around you.
It is always worth considering to keep at home the person who has died, for at least a few days. This can aid grieving, bring a sense of fulfilment and help families, including children, to meet death as something understandable and natural.
When someone dies, some people feel a strong need to stay close to them for a few days in the familiarity of home. This is often the main carer or closest person who can be in deep shock no matter how expected the death. They can be the “quiet” voice when others around are getting busy contacting funeral directors. It is important that we make sure these quiet voices get what they need as otherwise they can have long lasting regrets affecting their wellbeing.
Looking after someone who has died can be a last loving act, can aid in grieving, bring a sense of fulfilment and help folk, including children, to really take into their bones that a loved one has died. This all helps us to meet death as something understandable and natural.
This can be part of a home-based funeral where people make some or all of the arrangements themselves. It is equally possible for it to be part of a funeral organised by a funeral director.
Get savvy about your options now so that you are ready to care for yourself and your loved ones – in body and soul – after their death.
Our aim is to provide information and support to those wishing to consider their options after death and especially to whose who instinctively want to keep their loved ones at home (or bring them back home) in the days after their death.
Speaking Up for The Quiet Voices
“I looked after my husband all the time at home when he was dying. My sons arrived just as he died and called the funeral director. He was wrenched away from me within an hour. I should never have let him go. I am still regretting it 3 years later but have never talked to anyone about it. “
“If only I had known… I promised to care for my mum at home but she had to go into hospital in her last week. I would have jumped at the chance to take her home again after she died and care for her one last time.”
Wednesday 18th August 2021 7pm
Saturday in November 2021 tbc