demystifying death tour 2023

Tour places and times below

For Demystifying Death Week this year Pushing Up The Daisies is arranging a “demystifying death tour” around Scotland. Authors Lin Carruthers and Kate Clark will be available to talk about their new book – Slow Down When Someone Dies and sell signed copies. 

The book is a call to everyone, and particularly carers, to take time during the days after someone’s last breath to tend to their own longer term wellbeing. It contains inspiration to help people consider what’s right for them and all the practical information for them to be able to do what’s right for them when a significant person steps out of their life in a physical way.

Kate and Lin will also host informal information and discussion sessions over a cuppa and cake around the options people have when someone dies – the legalities and the practicalities. All questions welcome.

Huntly – Tuesday 2nd May 2pm-4pm, drop in at Orb’s Community Bookshop, 10 1/2 The Square, Huntly, AB54 8BR in partnership with the bookshop team

Dundee – Wednesday 3rd May 10am-1pm, drop in at Wellgate Shopping Centre, Panmure Street, Wellgate, Dundee, DD1 2DB in partnership with Say Something Dundee and Funeralink

Helensburgh – Wednesday 3rd May 7pm at Helensburgh Community Hub, 116 East Princes St., Helensburgh, G84 7DQ informal discussion over a cuppa and cake in partnership with Helensburgh Community Hub

Irvine – Thursday 4th May 2pm Fullarton Community Hub, 1 School Lane, Irvine KA12 8DF in partnership with No-one Dies Alone Ayrshire with launch of their Final Honouring Service

East Kilbride – Thursday 4th May 7pm at Kilbryde Hospice, Hairmyres Drive, Glasgow G75 8GJ informal discussion over a cuppa and cake in partnership with Kilbryde Hospice

Edinburgh – Friday 5th May 

11am-1pm drop in at Out of the Blue Drill Hall, 36 Dalmeny Street, Edinburgh EH6 8RG in partnership with Caledonia Funeral Aid and researcher Alex Mascolo.

230pm-4pm drop in at Quaker Meeting House Library, 7 Victoria Terrace, Edinburgh EH1 2JL in partnership with Caledonia Funeral Aid and researcher Alex Mascolo.

5:30 – 7pm drop in at The Gallery Bar, Summerhall, 1 Summerhall, Edinburgh EH9 1PL in partnership with researcher Alex Mascolo.

With grateful thanks to GoodLifeGoodDeathGoodGrief for financial support for the tour.

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Slow Down When Someone Dies

by Lin Carruthers and Kate Clark

Do the lights go out when someone dies? Are you in the dark about what to do when a person takes their last breath? This life-affirming guide encourages and enables you to explore the options for everyone involved.

It is currently available in paperback and eBook format. It is also available as a pdf by donation from

We are working on making it available in local bookshops in June 2023.

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This module explores an approach to preparing for your Daisy Days which takes account of yourself and also those central to your life. It covers who can legally make arrangements for you, how to begin, the influences on decisions, explorative conversations, and gives step-by-step guidance to write your “After My Last Breath” letter.

You will receive a link to:

  • watch the module video (approx 30 mins)
  • download the video transcript
  • download an illuminating exercise
  • access other useful resources.

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